Also the second reason that my head is messed up is because my dad called last night and just basically said the reason that my husband and I are getting a divorce is my fault. He wasn't that direct but that was the jist. He said, "Well, let me just tell you a few things I observed..."

1. Ylour husband wanted to have kids straight away. In fact, he was pushing for it before you got married. You have this job and you have told him that you don't want kids for a couple more years. This is a factor.

2. You have done a large amount of traveling for work and personal life and left him alone for weeks at a time. This is especially hard for someone who is feeling depressed.

3. On these trips, you are spending money. He is stressed and trying to sort the bills which can be a strain on a relaiotnship as well. (I interject at this point because he is im plying that I spend all of our money.)

So, that was my dad's nice "observations". How crap is that?! At the time, I just dismissed it, but started thinking about it this morning and it is really bothering me.

The demise of our relationship is partially my fault, but not entirely. My husband said he liked me because I am independent. So, that is my fault now?