This posting isn't going to be that long or detailed. I just wanted to let you know what is happening.

My husband told me last night that our relationship is over.

He said that he feels like the there are a number of factors. He is not happy with his life, job, and our relationship. He feels like the spark is gone and he doesn't know if it will come back. So, while he is unhappy nothing will change for him.

So, he is making the decision to end our relationship. I don't know what to think. I think I am in shock. Even though he is serious and I can see the look on his face, it feels like a terrible dream that I will wake up from.

I knew that he was distant, but I thought he was just going through a mid-life crisis thing and would emerge on the other side with me. I didn't expect that it would end.

I guess the final decision came from him when he spoke to his best friend's girlfriend. She told him she was in a relationship for 11 years and stayed in it because she was comfortable. I think he was afraid of being comfortable so he has called an end to it.

I am not sure what my next steps are. I thought I would want to live in the UK at least until January so I can get my citizenship, but part of me just wants to quit my job and run away.