Why don't I get love that just exists as it is and without conditions. Why do I get a love that is incomplete?!

Why must I get "I love you, but I need time to figure out why I am scared of commitment and address it". Great! So take your time and sort yourself out. What I do in the meantime? I am supposed to just wait?

Why can't someone just love me whose issues are not gigantic?

I have so much love to give. Why do I have to be alone? I am really struggling.